VIRGINITY –  the lie of Impurity

Girl : Krishna……is virginity really the judge of women?

Lord Krishna : Ah.. the question. Okay…..

Let me tell you what I saw once .

I often come to the earth quietly, not as God, but as passerby, to see how my people treat one another.

One afternoon, I crossed a small village and saw a crowd outside a panchayat house. I disguised myself as a villager and stood among them. In the middle stood a young woman, wrapped in a plain saree, her eyes fixed on the ground.

I noticed her eyes carried more than a world could ever understand. They looked like a sky heavy with rain, waiting for permission to break.

She had been married only a few months ago. Her husband had died in an accident. Now her parents want to remarry her. 

Two families stood arguing, her parents and the groom’s family.

At first, I thought it was about money, gold, and land. The usual cruelty humans justify. Then the groom’s father spoke loudly.

“It’s not like she’s pure now”, he said.

“She’s already been used.”

I felt something break inside me. So I turned to the man beside me and asked, “What are they talking about? What crime did she commit?”

He looked at me and said, "Don't you know? She’s not a virgin.

Her purity is gone. She must prove her purity or pay the price.”

Sakhi, Imagine that.

A woman who lost her husband was now being told she had lost her worth too. Why?

Because she was married to a man her family chose.

They did not ask who is loved. 

They did not ask how she was loved.

They did not ask how she suffered.

They did not ask how she survived loss.

They only counted what they believed was taken.

And guess what? They call it culture.

They even call it tradition.

They even dared to call it DHARMA.

Listen to me, Sakhi.

Even today, I watched the world carefully. The clothes have changed.

The cities have grown taller. But the questions humans ask women remain strangely small.

I see people glorifying virginity.

I see them debating it, announcing, flaunting, fearing it.

I see it being worn like a medal and hurled like an insult.

And I wonder….why is it even a subject?

What a human does with their life

is their own karma.

Their own decision.

Their own journey.

Whether a woman is a virgin or not is none of your business.

Not your concern.

Not your responsibility.

Her life is hers.

The universe is watching her path. Not you.

Tell me, who gave you the right to call her impure?

Who gave you the authority to curse her, label her,

or reduce her entire existence to one moment of her body?

The world is changing, Sakhi.

Rapidly. Loudly. Confusedly.

Some glorify virginity as pride.

Some mock its absence as shame.

Some announce it for validation.

Some weaponise it to control.

But understand this clearly…

When something is honoured without wisdom,

it becomes a tool.

And tools, in careless hands,

always hurt the innocent.

There are good men.

There are sincere hearts.

There are people who mean well.

But there are also those

who twist ideals into cages,

who misuse words to dominate lives,

who hide cruelty behind culture.

I did not create virginity

to be a measuring scale for dignity.

I did not create bodies

to be battlegrounds for morality.

Sakhi, what a woman does with her life is her karma.

What she endures is her fate.

What she chooses is her right.

Her life is hers.

The cosmos is already accounting for it.

Tell me, when did I appoint you

as the gatekeepers of women’s bodies?

When did I give you permission to label a soul impure

because of flesh?

What a human does with their life is my concern, not yours.

The universe and I are already tending to every karma.

Your work is simpler and harder: stay in your dharma.

Let your words carry no cruelty, let your mind hold no malice.

Walk straight in your own life,

and leave judgement to Me.